We all make mistakes.
The important thing isn’t making a mistake, but what we do after we make one.
Last week, I made a mistake and broke the trust of a friend of mine.
They approached me and called me out on my behaviour and I was thankful for that. I felt terrible as they were right and I vowed to do better as I’ve recognized that pattern in myself from before. I agreed with the person’s assessment and apologized and will take action steps to improve.
I am proud of myself as a previous version of me would not have acted that way.
A younger version of me would have likely tried to defend my position, tried to talk my way out of it or denied that it happened.
You see, that version of me was terrified to be seen as a failure. In the Asian culture, as with many other cultures, perfection is the standard to which everything is measured. This is something that no one can possibly achieve. We were also taught when we were young to “save face.” When there’s no space created for making mistakes, it’s hard to accept that you’ve made one.
We need to embrace a culture of taking responsibility and then taking action to do better.
Apologizing and accepting responsibility when confronted, is uncomfortable in the moment but is what’s needed to move on.
Remember, it is also ok to experience many emotions at the same time. I felt very bad for my actions and I was also proud of how I responded in the moment. It’s the same as one can be surrounded by people and yet also feel lonely at the same time.
All the emotions we experience are a part of ourselves and within us.
What was one “mistake” that you made and what did it teach you? Leave a comment below.
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